Hello sweet friends!
How are you doing? How was the first quarter of the year for you? Are you still as excited as the first weeks of January? Have you been working towards your new goals?
It’s great to set new goals and have new years resolutions, simply to have a guideline for where you wanna go, and plan actions towards that. But it can also make us feel pressured and discouraged when things aren’t going the way we like.
Nowadays it seems like self-confidence is something you can buy; expensive sunglasses, clothes, handbags, cars cosmetics, surgery etc. The more beautiful you are the more confident? I’m not so sure about that. I know many gorgeous models that are insecure about their looks. It might sound ridiculous, since models have some of the worlds most desired bodies. But how would you feel going to work every day and being judged on your looks from head to toe? For one client you might be perfect for another you’re hips and breasts may be too small or too large. Your hair might be too thin, you can be too short/tall etc. It’s a business and the clients have the right to get their perfect model, and models learn to see it as a business and therefore not take it personally. But that’s not always easy.
I personally think that looking good certainly contributes to feeling good, but self-confidence to me is to be found within.
The dictionary states that confidence is
1. Trust or faith in a person or thing,
2. A trusting relationship
The trust/faith in a person and the trusting relationship is the one you have with yourself! If you trust yourself your confidence will grow! But how can you learn to trust yourself?
What has worked for me is that I keep promises to myself.
When I want to do something/achieve something and I do/ achieve it, it makes me feel good about myself. And because I feel so good about myself I take on something new and do more things that make me happy. It’s like a positive snowball affect; it quickly builds a strong relationship with yourself.
Three rules I go by before I commit to something:
1) Do it for the right reason; Ask yourself why you want to do this and for who? Do things that come from a heart’s desire, not someone else’s expectation.
2) Be realistic of the time you have.Don’t over commit! when you feel overwhelmed it’s less likely that you’ll stick with it.
3) Have fun while doing it. Enjoy the process! Reaching your goal is fantastic but the road to it is where the magic happens.
And something I keep reminding myself: Don’t take yourself too seriously! Give yourself some slack and go play outside Very important too!
I BELIEVE IN YOU!